So you have the engagement ring (congrats by the way!) and wedding preparations are well underway, when all of a sudden, you do what all future brides do…..you start to think about going on a diet in preparation for the big day!
So here are my top ten weight loss tips, just for you my gorgeous bride to be…..
1 Buy a beautiful dress which fits your amazing body!
Have you put off dress shopping as you haven’t lost weight yet?? Are you worried and anxious you won’t find a dress which you like or fits you and you are automatically blaming your size and shape?? Stop my lovely. You want a dress which looks and feels amazing and that starts with buying one which fits you. Don’t blame your body if your dress feels tight, buy a dress which fits! Should your dress need taking in before the day then you can find a seamstress to do that. Far too many brides desperate try to create an image of themselves that they feel everyone else will like. Which leads me to tip #2…
2 Learn to be happy for who you are!
Self acceptance and self love are so important. You body has been there for you every single minute of every single day since the day you were born! She has carried on despite your judgemental comments and she has stayed with you despite your criticisms. Cut her some slack! She’s doing an amazing job at allowing you to fully experience this wonderful thing called life!
3 Remember your fiancé?
He loves you unconditionally. Every lump, bump and wobbly bit. No need to change any of that. And I’m pretty sure that when he sees you in that stunning dress which fits your body perfectly (see tip #1) he will love you even more and feel like the luckiest man on the planet (which he is by the way!)
4 Stop weighting yourself
The scales will only tell you the numerical value of your gravitational pull. They will not tell you how beautiful, amazing and wonderful you are. Your weight is not a reflection of your self worth nor will it ever show you how much you are loved by your friends, family and future husband. Enjoy your wedding day, you are awesome just how you are!
5 Stress Reduction not waist reduction!
Organising a wedding is stressful enough so you really don’t want to throw a diet into the mix too. Did you know that when we are stressed our brains actually crave sugar, it’s how we are wired?? So imagine being stressed AND on a diet where cake, biscuits and chocolate aren’t allowed and you’ve got the perfect recipe for BrideZilla to definitely make an appearance! You will never meet a hungry bride to be who is happy as they don’t exist! Let’s not go there……
6 Treat Yourself
Use the money you are planning on spending on a diet, detox, cellulite treatment and splash out on a pamper day, spa day or something extra delightful and luxurious for your wedding. Shoes, there are always shoes!!! You can never have too many shoes!!!
7 Losing weight really won’t make you happy.
Losing weight is not the key to the ‘happy life’ door. Instead it’s about loving your body. To feel confident in your body and happy in your life, it’s not about focusing on the food and dieting, it’s about focusing on living your life to the full………. something which diets are very good at taking away from you.
8 Find ways to start improving your self care regime.
We take care of the things which we love don’t we? So whether that be a bath, a new moisturiser or going for a walk, do more of that good stuff especially when you are stuck into wedding preparations! You could always treat yourself to shoes! (I’m clearly showing my shoe obsession in this post)
9 Be your own personal cheerleader.
If you had a friend who constantly told you that you were ‘fat and useless’, commented on your ‘flabby tummy’ and your ‘disgusting thighs’ and those ‘hideous stretch marks’ what would you do..?? I’d like to think that you would have the courage to tell that bee-etch to take a hike. The problem is that the friend in question is your inner mean girl, the part of you that constantly criticises and judges your body. Being mean and bitchy to yourself does not motivate you to eat differently or work out more, it just creates the momentum for body hatred and self criticism. So try and image your body as a separate entity, your own personal cheerleader. In order to get the best out of her you would encourage, praise, nurture and love that person; try it, you might be surprised what happens!
10 Think of your body as the most valuable possession you will ever own, and treat her accordingly.
Health (particularly mental health which dieting and food obsession plays havoc with) is far more important than what you weigh and what size your wedding dress is.
So my lovely, thin doesn’t equal happier, healthier or better.
Losing weight doesn’t mean you’ll have a more spectacular wedding than what you will be having already.
Forcing your amazingly perfect body to become smaller so you can take up less space in this world and on your big day won’t change anything….it will just add to the pressure and stress of wedding preparation.
You are unique, wonderful, perfect, gorgeous and beautiful already my darling.
Every lump, bump, wobbly bit, stretch mark and scar and I’m sure your fiancé would agree with me on that one. YOU are perfect in his eyes.
Now go and enjoy yourself! Life is for living, not for counting calories….
You can have a life where food is no longer in control.
I can’t wait to show you how.
Love Rachel xox
Comment to WIN 1 MONTH FREE access to the FOOD FREEDOM ACADEMY
I’m giving one lucky winner the chance to win 1 month free access to my brand new monthly membership program, the Food Freedom Academy, which gives you all the support you need, the tools I’ve learnt and perfected along my own path of food freedom PLUS a community of women like no other. What are you waiting for??
How to enter: Simply leave a comment below and let me know which tip is your favourite and why??
See you next week,
love Rachel xox
Intrigued about becoming a Soul Fed Women?
Weekly Soul Hunger goodness straight to your inbox to help you with emotional eating, binging, compulsive shopping, feeling lost, detached and not very happy